4 Harsh Truths Of Life; To Be Accepted Gracefully

We all travel through our own unique path. No two individual follow the same route. Generally, our life follows a smooth path except for some jerks on the way. As we move forward, we keep on adding experiences about life.
Mostly, we tend to stay and work in our own self-made comfort zone. We become too complacent. Off course, some element of uncertainty will always be there but we keep on proceeding in the same direction.
However, for many, among ourselves life’s journey is not smooth. Life may hit hard us anytime. Despite our best efforts to avoid any pain and suffering in life, we are slapped badly. It may sound depressing but it’s true. As a
result, life then becomes overwhelming and hard to manage. It’s extremely difficult to explain such situation in few words. Though we may not experience it in our life, certainly we observe it around us Our life mostly oscillates between extreme suffering on one end and blissful moments on the other end. Life has never been presented to us in perfect conditions. Everyone has to strive and struggle to achieve what we desire in life. In modern times, though the competition in almost all the fields has increased and so are the opportunities that are presented to us. There is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything. We have to be mindful, fully conscious and aware about things that are happening around us. From each and every
experience, we perceive and draw some ‘truth’ about life. There is however some commonality between those truths. Some of them are harsh realities of life. Few of those harsh truths are briefly explained here.

The world is meaningless, devoid of any purpose!
(so, we need to create our own meaning of life)

The debate whether human existence is meaningless or do we have some meaning or purpose behind our life.
Some philosophers have argued to the extent that the universe is a terrifying place to live. It’s full of suffering, tragedies, horrific pain, violence and above all devoid of any meaning. However, some say universe is full of
joy, happiness, beauty, goodness and has meaningful purpose behind our existence. However, our life mostly oscillates between these two extremes.
In earlier times, people widely believed that there is some Supreme Being watching us and if we do good deeds we would go to heaven. So, there was a deep meaning attached to our existence. Such believers trust that for more than 2000 years God gave the meaningful purpose to all of us to undertake life’s journey. We were also fearful of the Supreme Power guiding the humanity. However, people gradually led to believe, due to
rise in science and reason, that there is no proven basis behind the popular ideas like heaven after life and that the unknown power that can punish and reward us based on our deeds. That means, there is no bigger
purpose behind our existence. In 1870s a German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche, very famously declared ‘God is dead”. As we started
losing our faith in God, well established divine system got demolished. Life became meaningless. The sense of meaninglessness or nihilism started surfacing. Nihilism is the viewpoint that suggest the denial or lack of belief
towards the meaningfulness of life. It means life is without objectives, meaning, purpose or intrinsic value.
However, Soren Kierkegaard, a Danish philosopher who is generally considered as the father of existentialism argued that we are free agents who have complete control over our choices and actions that we
take. Subsequently, many more supported his philosophy of existentialism. They believed that we all have the potential to live life to the fullest and the society cannot restrict an individual’s life or actions. Life may be
meaningless but we all can chose our path of life’s journey. We are the architect of our own destiny. We can create our own meaning of life.

Life can slap us badly anytime! (Remember God every morning, never be arrogant, and respect others)

We humans are highly vulnerable beings living in uncertain times. Despite our best efforts, life can take unexpected turns. Examples are everywhere around us. We can just look around and see how life becomes hostile and ruthless all of a sudden, for which we are unprepared. Change is the only constant of our life. No one could have possible thought before we experienced Covid-19 pandemic that the world as a whole would
be getting transformed on unexpected lines. The humanity has never witnessed such a massive change in recent past. Similarly, at the individual level, the change can be of any magnitude, having a potential to
transform our life. So, beware, life can slap us badly any day.
Each one of us must have experienced that if we are humble, God fearing and receptive we can overcome any change in life. Rigid behaviour and beliefs can easily break any one of us. We must thank God every day, for
what He has provided to us for decent living. We shouldn’t be arrogant and egoistical. It’s ultimately our behaviour towards other fellow beings which really help us during troubled times. People can go to any extent
to help us if they feel we were nice to them. People come into our lives with a purpose and many a times, meaningful purpose. We must respect others irrespective of their social and economic status. Also, we must
always try to avoid ego coming in between any of our relationships.

We are all destined to die one day but we live as if we are immortal.(remember this and embrace death gracefully)

There is a very common statement that we use to make that is, ‘we all are destined to die one day but we live as if we will never die’. How true it is. Our behaviour and actions never exhibit the ultimate fate we have to
face. We live in a materialistic world, where our prime motive is be success in life. The success on the other hand is judged by the wealth and status we acquired in our profession or career. Our prime motive is not to pursue those things which will give us happiness and contentment. We keep on struggling for material goods and things that are pleasurable for us. It never struck us during those time that we will, one day, leave all these
material goods for others to enjoy. So, why not do those things that will make us happy and satisfied.
We however start seeing the inevitability of death beyond a certain age when our close friends and know persons start dying. As we participate in more spiritual events and prayers, our mind seems to foresee our own
death and the process of dying. We start thinking deeply and more frequently about the aspect of death. This realisation however come at far later stage of life. What about remembering death earlier? So that not only we are better prepared for that eventuality but our actions will be more rational. We may not rush madly for things which will ultimately makes us more miserable.

We have been designed to suffer
(that’s why we can never be perfectly happy)

We humans have been evolved to suffer. It’s primarily because of our inherent nature of mind. Our mind is generally in a state of perpetual dissatisfaction and restlessness. Our mind acts like a monkey jumping around from one set of thoughts to another with unfinished tasks. When it’s disturbed, it’s becomes distressed. As we generally don’t know how to manage our mind and thoughts, suffering starts.
Suffering, in simple words, is an outcome of distressing thoughts and emotions. It’s also an outcome of joy and happiness. There may be many reasons behind suffering such as physical pain, fear, anger, helplessness, guilt, shame, loneliness, sadness, and so on. When we keep on thinking of distress or negative experience, we
aggravate suffering. The traumatic experiences also lead to severe mental suffering. We generally don’t know how to handle negative thoughts, so suffering becomes inevitable.

Four Harsh Truths of Life, Better Accept Them Gracefully

We all travel through our own unique path. No two individual follow the same route. Generally, our life follows a
smooth path except for some jerks on the way. As we move forward, we keep on adding experiences about life.
Mostly, we tend to stay and work in our own self-made comfort zone. We become habitual and conditioned with
our life’s conditions. Off course, some element of uncertainty will always be there but we keep on proceeding in
the same direction. However, for many among ourselves life’s journey is not smooth. Life may hit hard to any of
us. Despite our best efforts to avoid any pain and suffering in life, we are slapped badly. It may sound

depressing but it’s true. As a result, life then becomes overwhelming and hard to manage. It’s extremely difficult
to explain such situation in few words. If not in our own life, but certainly we do experience around us.
Our life mostly oscillates between extreme suffering on one end and blissful moments on the other end. Life is
never presented to us in perfect conditions. Everyone has to strive and struggle to achieve what we desire in
life. In modern times, though the competition in almost all the fields has increased but so are the opportunities
that are presented to us. There is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything. We have to be mindful, fully
conscious and aware about things that are happening around us. From each of the experiences, we perceive
and draw some ‘truth’ about life. There is however some commonality between those truths. Some of them are
the harsh realities of life. Few of those harsh truths are briefly explained here.

The world is meaningless, devoid of any purpose!
(so, we need to create our own meaning of life)

The debate whether human existence is meaningless or do we have some meaning or purpose behind our life.
Some of the philosophers have to the extent of arguing universe is a terrifying place. It’s full of suffering,
tragedies, horrific pain, violence and above all devoid of any meaning. However, some says universe is full of
joy, happiness, beauty, goodness and meaningful purpose behind our existence. However, our life mostly
oscillates between these two extremes.
In earlier times, people widely believed that there is some Supreme Being watching of us and if we do good
deeds we would go to heaven, So, there was a deep meaning attached to our existence. For more than 2000
years, God gave the meaningful purpose to all of us to undertake life’s journey. We were also fearful of the
Supreme Power guiding the humanity. However, people gradually led to believed, due to rise in science and
reason, that there is no proven basis behind the popular ideas like heaven, afterlife and the unknown power
that can punish and reward us based on our deeds. That means, there is no bigger purpose behind our
existence.
German philosopher in 1870s, Friedrich Nietzsche, very famously declared ‘God is dead”. As we started losing
our faith in God, well established divine system got demolished. Life became meaningless. The sense of
meaninglessness or nihilism started surfacing. Nihilism is the viewpoint that suggest the denial or lack of belief
towards the meaningfulness of life. It means life is without objectives meaning, purpose or intrinsic value.
However, Soren Kierkegaard, a Danish philosopher who is generally considered as the father of existentialism
argued that we are free agents who have complete control over our choices and actions that we
take. Subsequently, many more supported his philosophy of existentialism. They believed that we all have the
potential to live life to the fullest and the society can’t not restrict an individual’s life or actions. Life may be
meaningless but we all can chose our path of life’s journey. We are the architect of our own destiny. We can
create our own meaning of life.

Life can slap us badly anytime!(Remember God every morning, never be arrogant, and respect others)

We humans are highly vulnerable beings living in uncertain times. Despite our best efforts, life can take
unexpected turns. Examples are everywhere around us. We can just look around and see how life becomes
hostile and ruthless all of a sudden, giving us no time to prepare for such tough times. Change is the only
constant of our life. No one could have possible thought before we experienced Covid-19 pandemic that the
world as a whole would be getting transformed on unexpected lines. The humanity has never witnessed such a
massive change in recent past. Similarly, at the individual level, the change can be of any magnitude, having a
potential to transform our life. So, beware, life can slap us badly any day.
Each one of us must have experienced that if we are humble, God fearing and receptive we can overcome any
change in life. Rigid behaviour and beliefs can easily break any one of us. We must thank God every day,
whatever He has provided to us for decent living. We shouldn’t be arrogant and egoistical. It’s ultimately our

behaviour towards other fellow beings which really help us during troubled times. People can go to any extent to help us if they feel we were nice to them. People come to our lives with a purpose and many a times,
meaningful purpose. We must respect others irrespective of their social and economic status. Must try to avoid ego coming in between our relationships.

We are all destined to die one day but we live as if we are immortal (so, keep remembering it and embrace death gracefully)

There is very common statement we use to make i.e. ‘we all are destined to die one day but we live as if we will never die’. How true it’s. Our behaviour and actions never exhibit the ultimate fate we have to face. We live in a materialistic world, where our prime motive is be success in life. The success on the other hand is judged by the wealth and status we acquire in our profession or career. Our prime motive is not to pursue those things which will give us happiness and contentment. We keep on struggling for material goods and things that are pleasurable for us. It never struck us during those time that we will, one day, leave all these material goods for others to enjoy. So, why not do those things that will make us happy and satisfied.
We however start seeing the inevitability of death beyond a certain age when our close friends and know persons start dying. As we attend more and more prayer meetings and listen to sermons, our mind, during that time, foresee our own death and the process of dying. We start thinking deeply and more frequently about the aspect of death. This realisation however come at far later stage of life. What about remembering death earlier? So that not only we are better prepared for that eventuality but our actions will more rational. We may not rush madly for things which will ultimately makes us more miserable.

We have been designed to suffer
(that’s why we can never be perfectly happy)

We humans have been evolved to suffer. It’s primarily because of our inherent nature of mind. Our mind is generally in a state of perpetual dissatisfaction and restlessness. It’s like monkey jumping from one set of thoughts to another just like money keep of eating and throwing away half eaten fruits. When it’s disturbed, it’s becomes distressed. As we generally don’t know how to manage our mind and thoughts, suffering starts. Suffering, in simple words, is an outcome of distressing thoughts and emotions. It’s also an outcome of joy and happiness. There may be many reasons behind suffering such as physical pain, fear, anger, helplessness, guilt, shame, loneliness, sadness, and so on. When we keep on thinking any distressing, or negative experience, we aggravate suffering. The traumatic experiences also lead to severe mental suffering. We generally don’t know how to handle negative thoughts, so suffering becomes inevitable.

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